Sexual Ethics: how about some simple guidelines?
Years ago I listened to a tape which talked not about sexual
rules, but about the questions we should be asking to determine whether or
not a relationship is ethical. I found
this to be useful over the years, when confronted with situations which begged
for guidelines.
I forgot some of the questions and that bothered me. The
tape had long since vanished.
At the Women’s Convocation I chose the session “Contemporary Catholic Christian Ethics” by
Margaret A. Farley. As she started off, I realized these were the questions on
the tape! The tape is in the process of becoming a book, fully developed!
Here are the questions as I took notes on them. The WORDS IN
CAPS are her words. The questions are my summary, not her exact words. She is
not responsible for how I process what I hear!
(1) FREE CONSENT: Is this decision truly free? Are both parties
free to make this decision?
(2) MUTUALITY: Does this relationship involve mutuality, or are
the benefits one-sided?
(3) EQUALITY: Is this a relationship between equals?
(4) COMMITMENT: Does the relationship express itself in
commitment?
(5) FRUITFULNESS: Does
this relationship turn in on itself or give life?
(6) SOCIAL JUSTICE: How does this relationship affect the larger
community?
I’ve tried these questions on other ethical issues that come up in our daily lives and the lives of our friends. They seem to be a place to start the discussion of "What is the right and good thing to do?"
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